I’ve just got a very important lesson from my girlfriend.

It’s something which i’ve been thinking about a lot over the last couple of weeks and it’s something which my good buddy Kavit keeps drilling in to me.

“I am a cause and not an effect”

It just means that I create what I experience and that anything that happens to me is because I do something to let it happen to me. Whatever I say or do is not because of someone else, it’s because of me.

I’ve just been on a text conversation with my girlfriend and it was all about me trying to teach her to break a habit which she has done for a while. It’s something that really gets up my nose and the way that I react to it shouldn’t be that way…

I react to it by showing her up in public with a snide or sarcastic remark. I know she gets upset when I do this but everytime I think about her getting upset I just think “It’s for her own good. She’ll thank me some day. I’m just trying to teach her something.”

This isn’t right at all.

The fact is, and this is something which I’m realising more and more, is that I’m treating her this way and reacting in this way, not because i’m annoyed at her, but because i’m annoyed at myself for not being able to teach her in the way that I wanther to learn.

You know what? It’s not even that. The truth is that everyone is a part of me and I am a part of everyone. We are all source. We are all connected. What I see in others that I don’t like is something within myself that I don’t like. Now i’ve learnt to perform this habit which annoys the hell out of me, but deep down I don’t think i’ve got rid of it. And this is what annoys me. Not my lovely girlfriend who only ever looks to take care of me (baby I love you so much) and not the things that she does. It’s me.

To quote a … well… quote: ‘To change others, you must first change yourself’.

So I’ve taken a vow. It’s a habit which I have to form MYSELF. I vow that before I get annoyed at anyone else about the things that they do, I must first look within and see why it is I’m getting annoyed at them if, for some reason, I wasn’t annoyed at myself.

Thank you for the lesson darling… I love you.